Aisling's Decluttering Journal
20 April - 15 May 2003

"The problem WAS the problem, period." Sometimes I get lost in excuses for why things are happening, convinced that if I fix whatever seems to be the reason for it, then the problem itself will also vanish. For years, I was convinced that if my husband and I just did more things together, we'd have the commonality of experience. And then, he'd understand me enough not to say and do the things that triggered anger and depression in me.

The fact is, the marriage was the problem. And, as the marriage counsellor said to me on our second visit to her, "You should have left him years ago."

She was right. And I was trying to fix all these other things, when sometimes... Well, it just is what it is. Period.

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